14 May Wise Words from Mum
I come from a long line of strong women with big hearts. I truly believe in the saying that it takes a village to raise a child and I feel lucky to have been guided by many women in my life. With today being Mother’s Day I would like to share some of the wise words of wisdom I have grown to live by: quotes that my mum, nanna and aunties either made up or claimed. These are the little pieces of wisdom I refer to often, and I hope to pass these sentiments down to my children. Here are just a few of my favourites.
“If you can change it then why worry? If you can’t change it then why worry?” Dalai Lama
This was on my mum’s fridge for years. As someone who tends to over think everything this practical quote works for me. Basically if you can change it – then do so and if you can’t – worrying about it is not going to change the outcome. No matter which way you look at it the answer is the same; don’t worry.
“You catch more flies with honey”
My mum has always said this to me and she is the master at getting her own way through kindness rather than anger. The thought is that you will have more success getting what you want by being sweet or nice than by being mean and rude. I am probably a bit more headstrong than my mum but I use this in so many situations. Sometimes when someone is fired up and you do the last thing they expect and be extra nice it stops them in their tracks. You don’t even have to waste your energy getting all angry and aggressive. Take a deep breath and use kindness.
“As long as you remember and think of your loved ones they will never be completely gone, they will live on through your memories.” My Aunty
Sadly when I was fourteen two of my friends were killed in a car crash. Dealing with the grief of losing someone close at this young age was really overwhelming. It made me realise at such a young age how important time is and is probably one of the major reasons I attempt to live my life to the fullest. At the time my Aunty gave me a bunch of long life flowers with this message. Whenever I lose someone close I still think of my Aunties words and I find comfort in my memories.
“To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived – that is to have succeeded” Ralph Waldo Emerson
This quote was on our wall for as long as I can remember. What a lovely way to view success. I have always loved reading it and I truly believe its sentiment. This is what I base my idea of success on. To be honest I am yet to read a quote by Ralph that I don’t like.
“Never ever give up”
You know the picture of the bird swallowing the frog and the frog has his hands around the birds neck, this was also on our fridge for years. My mum has always taught us to try our hardest and to never give up. It appears to be working in our family. The other day I could not find my youngest sons comforter and I said “I give up”, Oscar said “no mum you never ever give up”. He is four, I had to laugh and he did find the comforter too.
“Always follow your intuition”
This one also got passed down from my Nanna. As a mother of 6 she had lots of practical tips. This is one every mum should do, act on your intuition. If you see something that you think might be a danger it probably will be. If you know something isn’t quite right, act on it. Always trust your intuition.
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“You can not spoil a child with love”
My beautiful Nanna used to always say this and like all her advice I think this is a beautiful way to look at it. You can never show or tell your children you love them too much. I probably tell my boys every day and smother them in cuddles and smooches as much as I can while they still let me. I truly believe that the best thing for a child’s self-esteem and confidence is to know they are loved. My Nanna has passed this sentiment on to all of us and my mum still tells me she loves me every time we talk. My mum has always said to make sure you tell someone you love them while you still can. Love you mumma x
I hope some of these resonate with you, these are just a few of the things I have been taught by my own family. I would love to hear some of the words of wisdom your families live by so feel free to comment below. Happy Mothers Day to my mum and all the other mums out there. I hope that you are having a lovely day and feeling loved and appreciated. To all the women out there missing their mums today know that as long as you remember and think of your loved ones they will never be completely gone. I am sure your mum lives on through your thoughts and actions, just like you can see my Nanna’s spirit lives on in my family. To all the women who play the role of aunty, stepmum, friend or teacher, know that your role is an important one too and it really does take a village to raise a child.